Silence By Numbers
The more I think about it, the more I want to say…
I am not a statistic. I am not some number that should be pitied or nannied. I am not some figure that can be thrown around to prove a case of fabricated “truths” against someone and their business.
I am a living, breathing, bleeding human being. Not only have I been shoved into one side of this arguement by you against my will, and been outright lied to… I’ve also just been used.
You tell me that the jokes aren’t funny, but you turn around and point me out, without ever saying my name, with numbers. That offends me more than a reddit meme ever could.
For anyone who would dare silence a person because you don’t like the way they cope with a very real trauma, and on behalf of all the other victims who have been offended by this recent outburst: Fuck you.
EDIT: I just caught wind of what, apparently, “normal survivors” do to cope. Once more, we’re faced with total ignorance on the subject. More silencing. More fear of judgement. It just astounds me how people can impose their thoughts of how someone “should” deal with being victimized, forcing the victims into a proverbial corner all over again. It absolutely sickens and terrifies me.
I had to add this quote from a group I’m in, because it’s just so brilliant, “So EVERY SINGLE RAPE CRISIS GROUP IS JUST A BUNCH OF WOMEN and MEN BRAGGING????”
EDIT 2/22/12: The individual who made this comment has since apologized. I greatly appreciate and accept the gesture. I sincerely hope that anyone else who has made such statements, whether intentional or not, also realizes and offers an apology for all those who have been hurt.
EDIT #2: The post in question has been edited, however, I and other enraged victims refuse to let this slide. As such, I am posting this image for context:
EDIT 02/23/12: I find it entirely interesting and extremely disheartening that absolutely no statement of apology has been issued by the blogger in question. When I approached her and told her my feelings on her using rape as a platform from which to lambast someone, all she said was that she “removed that from [the] post as it was taking away from [her] intent.” Not because she knew it was wrong to use rape as an arguement against someone and something entirely unrelated. Not because she was remorseful about the people she hurt. It was removed because she didn’t like being called out on it. And now, we wait. I and a good number of others simply wait for her to apologize for denying us he right to heal in our own way, and for using our trauma as a way to bring down somebody’s business. I have a bad feeling that this apology will never be received, as now the entire post has been deleted, comments and all – it’s easier on the ego to hide from your mistakes than it is to own up to them, I suppose.
But hiding what happened does not change what has been done.